Daniel Theodore Campos aka Baby C
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Thanks Daniel, it is an honor and a privilege to guest host your blog–again!
5. Wearing the Jersey doesnâ€™t Make You in the Gameâ€”Yet.
Nowadays, Daddies are invited to be present in the birthing room. If youâ€™re lucky, theyâ€™ll give you the scrubs and maybe let you cut the umbilical cord. Donâ€™t get a big head, it doesnâ€™t change the score any more than throwing out the first ball. There is a great team of doctors, nurses and high tech equipment monitoring both your significant other and future child. Now is NOT the time to ask questions, make small talk or get too involved. I was given clear instructions to stay on one side of the sheet with Mommyâ€™s head and if things went wrong I understood I would be escorted out of the room. Daddy, youâ€™re there for Mommy support and pretty much nothing else. Furthermore, youâ€™re a guest. Donâ€™t get benched.
4. Grease is the Word.
Hospitals are people with lots of moving parts. Although you can expect exceptional service, much like your dinner waiter, you donâ€™t want to piss off the nursesâ€”especially towards Mommy. They are the engine that keep the wheels turning. Be nice, friendly, and overly courtesy to your nurses, dietitians, cleaning peopleâ€”basically anyone helping Mommy. In fact, I am a big believer in given them cake, cookies and anything homemade as a welcoming gift. You laugh, but you would be surprised what a tray of cookies will get you in the way of free Daddy meals and faster than normal service. Daddy, it is your job to make the nurses loveâ€”Mommy! You may benefit a little, but it is the mother of your child that needs the extra care.
3. Good Cop, Bad Cop the Nurses.
Having said the above, if your family needs something, you need to be the 3rd party bad guy. If your wife complains of pain, you call the nurses and express your concern. Come across as the â€œoverbearing Daddy.â€ Take the heat and cover for Mommy. If your wife drops a tray of food, report it as YOUR mistake. If the nurses are going to hate anybody, let it be youâ€”Daddy. If pain meds are late, you complain on behalf of your wife or girlfriend. She gets to be the good cop (â€œHeâ€™s just overacting.â€), you play the bad cop (â€œYouâ€™re an hour late on meds, sheâ€™s dying over here.â€)
2. Baby Sleeps, Mommy Sleep.
You donâ€™t know it yet, but for the next month you and especially Mommy are not going to get much sleep. Itâ€™s like college finals week all over again. Mommy needs to learn the art of â€œpower naps.â€ Daddy, when the baby sleeps, it is time for Mommy to sleep too. End of storyâ€”period! By the way, you should get some shut eye too.
1. Wife Focused, Not Kid or Friends.
Finally, I leave you with the hardest tip of all. It is absolutely paramount that you Daddy, take super care of Mommy. This takes precedence above your new baby, friends or even family. This will be a momentary stress point in your life. Take extra, extra care of mommy doing your very best to wait on her hand and foot. Depending on whether she had a c-section or not, stress of baby feeding or not, you need to pull yourself up by the boot straps and jump into overdrive with the Mommy focus. As the saying goes, â€œIf Momma ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy!â€ Proper Mommy rest reduces postpartum and makes her recovery faster. As with most things youâ€™ll learn about parentingâ€”itâ€™s not about you!
Hang in there, youâ€™ll do great. Parenting is one of the most exciting times of your life. Congrats on being a future Daddy!
Fred Campos aka Daniel’s Daddy