I rang in 2015 sitting on the couch with my family. I stuffed my face with chocolate and toasted sparkling apple juice with my wife and kids while watching the ball drop and Disney fireworks on two laptops at home. It was the beginning of a new year, which meant it was time to focus on writing my yearly New Year’s Resolutions.
In 1995, I was 25 years old and I made 25 New Year’s Resolutions and completed 23 of them. It was an amazing year from which I read the Bible everyday, went to bed at midnight, got up at 6a, doubled my income, and didn’t watch one hour of television. It was truly a life changing year of singleness and no responsibilities. 20 years later, I am fat and happily married with children. Therefore I feel much more in touch about making REACHABLE New Year’s resolutions. I want to encourage and challenge you to set the bar much LOWER in order to achieve greater results in your goal setting.
20 years later, I am fat and happily married with children. Therefore I feel much more in touch about making REACHABLE New Year’s resolutions. I want to encourage and challenge you to set the bar much LOWER in order to achieve greater results in your goal setting.”
How to Make REACHABLE New Year’s Resolutions
According to Statistic Brain, only 45% of Americans make New Year resolutions and less than 8% of them actually achieve their goals. I find this statistic both alarming and saddening. So I want to encourage you today to go ahead and make resolutions, write them down, and make them measurable. But more importantly make them reasonable, reachable and immediately celebrate your success as you achieve them. Below are my resolutions, along with commentary and tips as to why and how they are achievable!
The 2015 Reachable New Year’s Resolutions of Fred Campos
In Regards to My Health
1. I will lose 1.7 lbs to weigh less than I did on January 1st, 2014. Keep it off for a day.
Don’t try to lose 50 lbs this year, or even 5 lbs this month. The number one resolution made and broken by Americans, is flawed from the start. Try to lose more weight than you weighed, say… yesterday. Set a low goal and focus on keeping it for a day. Don’t extend the time period. Reach it, mark it off, and celebrate your success. 1.7 lbs is a realistic goal for me. I could hit the gym maybe 4 times this year, or skip one White Chocolate Mocha at Starbucks or even forgo that extra refill of movie buttered popcorn.
2. I will get up before noon everyday.
If you are going to make goals that extend beyond a day, make it something that you have a 99% chance of accomplishing. Being married with kids pretty much nullifies my chances of sleeping past 10a on any given day, so this qualifies as a reasonable and realistic goal to achieve.
3. I will go see a doctor when I am really, really, really sick and dying.
I hate visiting doctors. This year I will listen to my wife and visit my doctor at least when I am on my deathbed.
In Regards to My Social life
4. I will watch more television and complete at least five seasons of mindless shows.
For so many years my success has been based on making better use of my free time. Now thanks to Amazon Prime, I can park my blessed assurance and binge on complete seasons of Lost, Frasier, and Everybody Loves Raymond.
5. I will embrace social media as the preferred method of communication, by decreasing phone calls and visits.
I’ve spent years fighting society and the kids about spending quality time with family and friends. Concepts like picking up the phone instead of emailing and calling instead of texting. I think it is high time I concede to communication progress. I will do away with the house phone and learn to connect and communicate with people through Twitter and Facebook. A “Like” will serve as my new method of communicating with those I love.
In Regards to My Family
6. I will teach my children the life long skill of independence, by being less involved in their lives.
Looking back I have spent too much time with my children, attending most all of their school activities, helping them with all of their homework, and spending quality one on one time with each kid. In reality, love can been shown from a distance and I have made them too co-dependent on us parents and less a fend-for-yourself types. It’s time to pull back and see if they can fly with their own wings out of the nest.
7. I will spend more adult time with my wife by having monthly date nights.
I cannot remember the last movie I saw with SuperParentMom that wasn’t rated G or a non-cartoonish? I have become too kid-centric and forgot the old adage, “Spouses stay and kids leave.” This is the year to ship the kids to camp and go on a cruise with the love of my life (and no kids).
8. I will focus more on “me” time, to make myself happier.
The airlines industry has it correct, “Put the oxygen mask on yourself before assisting others.” I am burned out serving those around me. As the Taco Bell chihuahua dog states, “What about my quierros?” How can I be the best person to serve the world, if my needs aren’t served first. This year I will focus on putting my needs first and thinking less of others.
You can achieve your New Year’s resolutions. You need to dial down the requirements and expectations. I want to wish you a very Happy New Year. I gotta go, it’s time for me to watch the 100th episode of Lost!